Talking: There is a tee-shirt out now that reads "HELP –I'M TALKING AND I CAN'T SHUT UP!" It's a curiosity that we all have the ability to speak and express our thoughts and some of us over –do it, and others under –do it to a point of frustrating their partners. Talking is very important because if you hold in your thoughts and emotions, especially the angry ones, you are hurting yourself and shortchanging the relationship you're in. You've got to get those issues on the table talk throug them "Soup to nuts", and then clear the table feeling content and at peace with yourself and your partner.