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Love is a wonderful yet crazy thing. Many people these days are perplexed by the relationships that come and go in their lives, especially the important love relationships. One thing to keep in mind is that everything in your experience is present for learning. We learn to love ourselves by learning to love another. The greatest aspect and lesson of love is that of unconditional acceptance.
To unconditionally accept another persons wishes and behaviors can be difficult. And at the same time that we allow another the free will to choose to live life the way he or she wants and with whom, we must as individuals set boundaries for ourselves so that we do not become the victims of repetitive hurts influenced by that others decisions.
When a person comes to me for a reading on relationship I almost always ask the same three questions up front. For example, Mary calls me for a reading and asks me about her relationship with Michael, I would most likely ask:
1.) Mary, how long have you known Michael?
2.) How did you meet Michael?
And please Mary, tell me about
the last correspondence you had with
With this information I can pick up on the vibration of the relationship more firmly. I can tell Mary more about the content of the relationship, whether it is going to last, or if she might want to be picking up the pieces and moving on. I might also be able to tell if Mary and Michael are soul mates, if they've ever had a lifetime together before this one, and/or whether they are here to work out an issue or two and then move onward, apart from one another or whether they might be together forever.
Often, once a person is clear as to what condition the relationship is in and what its purpose is in this lifetime, it will help that person assess what the next step in life might be. When one is confused by a relationship, all of life can be very puzzling. A stagnant relationship or the misperception about where a relationship stands can cause problems at work and in other relationships. But once the dynamics of a relationship are understood intellectually, the feelings can be dealt with and the person can move on to heal the self and the relationship in question.
If a client is asking about a fairly new relationship, it will help him or her to know if it is worth the time to pursue, and what might be watched for in that pursuit. New relationships can be very passionate and filled with a lot of intensity. This can bring up past hurts and issues within the individuals involved and can cause fear and confusion. Some people even run the other direction when they encounter this type of intensity. The good news is that people often return once the heart stops pounding and the head clears. True love in relationship takes time, nurturing and patiencelots of patience. Commitment to another person is a big step. Relationships can be either long-term or short lived, depending upon the purpose and the elements involved.
Also, in a reading I might tell the person inquiring things that he might want to do for self. Usually these are self-help techniques that can bring comfort and healing to the emotional/psychological aspect of being. The heart can become very bruised sometimes by a forlorn love relationship. Also, the ecstasy of new relationship, especially a relationship between soul mates can cloud a persons thinking and actually hinder effective day-to-day living. So to adjust to the intensity, one can do things like deep breathing, meditation and light work. Long walks, exercise and singing can also help to modify the excitement of new love. Isnt love grand?
I also do readings on relationships other than primary, intimate couplings, like that of friendship, work relationships, and family relationships. Oftentimes soul mates come into this world together to perform a common task, which often plays out in the work life together. World service and life purpose questions also come up in relationship readings, and we can focus on those together. Love through relationship with self and others is what this earth plane reality is all about. By a combined use of clairvoyance and Tarot I can look into these aspects of life very succinctly and precisely.